This is not easy.
A year later, when I follow up with Jade, she emphasizes how the ritual of uncoupling helped her to see the writing on the wall. “At first I thought it was a little New Age-y, but I was also proud to be doing it and even shared it with some friends. We were doing something right, despite all the wrong that had come before. I often wondered, How is he going to leave? Is he just one day going to wake up, say, ‘Okay, bye,’ and walk out the door? The separation ceremony put an end to my ruminations. I desperately needed a way to help me accept that he loved another woman and it was really over.”
Needull in a haystack 
Thanks a lot for pointing me towards that post. It still seems like a long shot for me to endeavour to have this kind of ceremony with my ex some day. But I certainly feel it would be very useful for us in avoiding accusations and hurts and facing the unavoidable with grace. And it might start a healing process that otherwise might drag on forever.
Agree with you. Thank you for liking the post.
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