ARE WE SPOILING OUR KIDS WITH TOO MUCH PRAISE?


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Parents always want to do the best for their kids. Parents do not want to do things to their kids that they did not like when growing up themselves. Today’s needull talks about why too much praise might not actually be good for the kids in long run. Must read for young parents.

In more recent studies, another danger emerges: Approval itself can become the “extrinsic reward,” the end goal. A child who is praised often will begin to crave the satisfaction he or she gets from pleasing their parent, teacher, or caregiver. Instead of doing something for the pure joy of it, the child will begin to do it simply for the praise. This is not a healthy cycle, and it can turn children into approval addicts. Their worth comes from the recognition they get rather than an inner sense of achievement or fulfilment.

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Joanna Pocock — JSTOR Daily

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5 thoughts on “ARE WE SPOILING OUR KIDS WITH TOO MUCH PRAISE?

  1. I definitely agree that excessive praise can devalue the praise, and I am reminded of another article that proponed that the difficulty itself is part of how we measure the value of something; that the time we spend being frustrated is in fact necessary as a precursor to the joy of success.

  2. Thank you, though I can’t claim the credit, or recall where I read that, unfortunately. In any case, thank you.

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